Fear of Missing Out: Tips for Those Who Can't Attend RWA 2018



The annual Romance Writers of America conference is coming up.  If you--like me--don't yet make enough money from your writing to pay for conference fees, hotel and airfare, there's no need to sit around and mope. 


Sure, you're going to be missing a lot.  There's nothing like meeting other authors face to face, trading business cards with writers who share your interests, attending master classes with industry professionals, or sitting across the table from an editor or agent to speed pitch your next project. 


You already know that!  That's why you're not going to mope--but turn your fear of missing out into something constructive.  Here are some tips for those of you (like me) who will be home instead of in Denver July 18-21.


--Do you have a friend, editor, or agent who may be attending?  Ask them to take notes for you or help distribute postcards or business cards. 


--Follow the conference on Twitter and other social media sites.  Many authors will be blogging about their experience and you can benefit from their summaries of sessions (although you may find yourself getting a little teary-eyed over photos of the cocktail parties and signings you'll be missing). 


--Remember that time you weren't invited to Homecoming dance and ended up having a much better time with your girlfriends at a slumber party?  Put out a call on social media to other authors who won't be going.  Maybe you can plan a book swap or blog hop.  RWA is all about community--so make some of your own! 


--Plan a mini-conference for yourself by downloading some good books on craft or helpful guides to publishing.  Reread a great coaching book like BIRD BY BIRD by Anne Lamott or Margaret Atwood's NEGOTIATING WITH THE DEAD.  Atwood has some fun resources up on her website for newbie and seasoned authors.


--Consider "attending" the Harlequin YouTube video series, where you'll find author interviews, master classes, and behind the scenes looks at the romance industry.  It's a conference unto itself. 


--Finally:  give yourself a gentle reminder that you might be gasping for breath in the thin mountain air of the mile-high city.  Who needs high altitude?  Start dreaming about attending RWA next year in New York!